Communication
Even though communication may not seem really important when you’re a teenager, it is what all relationships should be based around. Most teenage guys are in particular anxious about communication when in a relationship. This can result in guys wanting, or feeling like they need, to have a drink or two before being with their partner to help them deal with their shyness and their fears of being rejected. This is not the way to go. Without successful, sober, communication, there isn’t a real relationship there; just two people hanging out. In a relationship, you need to communicate with one another to negotiate sexual boundaries, learn about each other and be compassionate to each other's needs. If there is limited or no communication, then boundaries can be blurred and conflicting expectations can arise; especially relating to sexual intimacy. No always means no; Sex without consent is sexual assault - there is no room for confusion.
Playing it safe
Violence against women occurs mostly within a sexual relationship, but is not limited to this situation alone. Sexual assault can occur outside relationships with people you may know or even strangers. It is important that to keep yourself safe you build healthy relationships, whether sexual or not.
There are several precautions you can take to protect yourself socially. These include;
Do not go out alone
This does not mean that you can't go down to the shops by yourself. If you are going to a party or hanging out at the mall, plan to go with a friend or a group so you can protect each other from possible danger.
Surround yourself with people you trust
Have friends and socialise with people that you feel safe being around. Trust your instincts. If you get the feeling that someone does not have your best interests at heart or you feel unsafe around, remove yourself from them; even if that means going home.
Look after yourself and your friends
A part of being a good, trustworthy friend is looking out for them and their safety. Help guide your friends in making safe choices. If you think their choice of partner does not have their best interest in mind, voice your worries delicately; it’s better that they are a little annoyed at you than they become a victim of assault.
Have plans to get home
Don’t just plan to wing it or worry about it later. If you have made the choice to go out, look after your safety and make sure you have safe transport options available to you. At all times you should avoid getting in a car with someone that has been drinking or that you know is a reckless driver. This may mean organizing a lift from your mum, or making sure you know the bus routes home. Avoid walking home alone at night.
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